I dont mind being single...as long as I get some kind of attention from someone. :-d It is nice to be fussed over. I once had two guys fighting over who was going to get to take me home for the night after we left the bar. That was funny. I ended up not going with either because they just wanted a piece but it was still funny!
I've been lucky so far when it comes to dudes. I've not really come across the type that really are dicks. I mean, my last ex wasn't worth going out with after a while, but that was more because we had a falling out, not because he did anything drastic.
Being single for three years now, single is fine. Attention from guys that have girlfriends confuzes the hell outta me (my crush admitted that he liked me...but he has a girlfriend...what?). But attention is attention so whatever..=]
I've heard tons of horror stories about guys tho...tryin to get in your pants, doin' this doin' that....dudes are dumb sometimes.
What you don't understand you can make mean anything.
Yep...guys are definitely dumb...I've been without one for at least a year now...little over. Part of me hates being single, on the other hand, as much as I've been hurt in relationships, I really don't want to be in a hurry to jump into another one. I would rather wait for the guy I really want to be with than settle for someone I can't picture myself umm...having kids with, or just being with period for the next 50 years...
I also hate when guys take FOREVER to get ready to go somewhere or something. I mean, I know guys who take way longer than I do. I don't understand why some men take so long... they don't need to look perfect like we do
DejaVuGurl1203 wrote: My current boyfriend now really gets on my nerves sometimes and once in a while I ask myself why the heck am I with this lame -beep- weirdo? But I think there's a good reason I'm still with him, because I do have strong feelings for him. I'm scared it's going to turn into an abusive relationship though, because... the first time he hit me, which was maybe in like, June, I said to him that I enjoyed something that happened and he disapproved of it and hit me lightly for saying it. Second time was in late June/early July, he was being a big baby about something and I said to him "Well, you can't always get what you want. OH WELL." and he pushed me. I pushed him back and told him not to touch me.
Then the other day at Deep River, once I went down a slide, he was in line behind me, and I had went way ahead of him in the lazy river. I decided to let him know where I was, so I waved to him when he looked my way. Once getting off the lazy river and he finally caught up to me, he said "You suck" and slapped my back just because I didn't wait for him. He is SUCH a 5 year old sometimes. Next time he hits me I swear I'm going to go crazy on him...
You shouldn't make yourself go through that. Tell him you don't want to be slapped ever. If he chooses not to listen, I suggest finding someone else.
This is NOT me. You wouldn't understand.
CoasterTycoon77 wrote:Do not even get me started on this topic....I dated this guy on and off again for years....OK, so...we were on the couch cuddling....being mushy, blah blah blah.....and he all of a sudden comes out with "Yeah, you sort of remind me of my dog..." I was like... " WHAT DID YOU JUST SAY TO ME????" Oh, I was mad! He was a 24/7 moody, PMS-ing jerk anyway. I couldn't say a darn thing to him without feeling like I had to walk on eggshells. He had these mood swings (I actually thought he was bipolar), and never took responsibility for anything as far as why the relationship didn't work out. Now, 2 years later, he STILL acts like a 5 year old and holds a grudge against me for not wanting to be with him. He still will not take any kind of responsibility either. I mean, it was really hard to handle...he never got violent, but came VERY CLOSE. Would you believe, to this day I still have 'friends' that say I should've stayed with him. It would've worked out? I keep finding out more and more about him that I don't like, so what the heck should I have stayed for????
"I've been staring at the world, waiting. All the trouble and all the pain we're facing. Too much light to be livin' in the dark. Why waste time? We only got one life. Together we can be the CHANGE. So go and let your heart burn bright"
CoasterTycoon77 wrote:Do not even get me started on this topic....I dated this guy on and off again for years....OK, so...we were on the couch cuddling....being mushy, blah blah blah.....and he all of a sudden comes out with "Yeah, you sort of remind me of my dog..." I was like... " WHAT DID YOU JUST SAY TO ME????" Oh, I was mad! He was a 24/7 moody, PMS-ing jerk anyway. I couldn't say a darn thing to him without feeling like I had to walk on eggshells. He had these mood swings (I actually thought he was bipolar), and never took responsibility for anything as far as why the relationship didn't work out. Now, 2 years later, he STILL acts like a 5 year old and holds a grudge against me for not wanting to be with him. He still will not take any kind of responsibility either. I mean, it was really hard to handle...he never got violent, but came VERY CLOSE. Would you believe, to this day I still have 'friends' that say I should've stayed with him. It would've worked out? I keep finding out more and more about him that I don't like, so what the heck should I have stayed for????
That sounds a lot like how my boyfriend is. He's really moody, and really seems to PMS sometimes. He got mad at me last night for not talking to him for like, 15 minutes or so because I was having a really bad day. I hate people seeing me cry, so thats why I avoided him. I probably would have also gone off on him if he were to piss me off, another reason why I avoided him a bit. Sometimes I seriously feel like treating him like a 5 year old. I used to let him hang out with me and my best friends sometimes, but I haven't let him in a while because my friends hate him because of his attitude, and the fact that he acts like a total smartass.
He uses the phrase "You suck" with me a lot, and he has said it with my friends too. He acts like its the end of the world if something doesn't go his way. Sometimes he will get pissed at me for going on a ride without him, he'll be all like "I don't like to be left out! You suck." Sometimes he kind of has to take a break from the rides, like after he eats or something. I don't need that, so can't he just sit down while I go on the ride, instead of him going with and getting sick if he's so worried about it? That one time at Oak Fest when he pushed me... We were in line for the scrambler, and me and my 2 girlfriends sat together. Jason and my other guy friend tried to get on but had to wait for the next one... and when Jason walked past us he was all "You suck" and my friend said "What the crap are you trying to get started?" and he said "Bring it on -bleep-!" When I yelled at him after the ride he told me he was calling all 3 of us that name. He acts like it's our (or my) fault that he doesn't get his way. That's kinda why he pushed me, because I told him he can't always get his way.
I don't even know why I talk about him so much in this topic... I really love him it's just these things about him really bother me and are wrong.
Yes!!! That is EXACTLY how Alan is!! I put up with that for YEARS. He acted (and still does) like an immature little kid. If I said or did something he didn't like, he would give me the silent treatment and wander off somewhere I couldn't find him for hours. He flies off the handle over the dumbest things. It'll be April, right?? His b-day is in June and months before that even, he's moping around...."Nobody loves me...everybody forgets my birthday...if you don't do anything then and there on his birthday, he mopes....oh, and Christmas....he'll sit there and say "Everybody better get me better gifts than I'm getting them!" He goes to the Dollar Tree for everything. He always gets fired from his jobs because he won't listen to the boss and does things HIS way rather than how they want it done. I have to walk on eggshells a lot with him, at least I used to, because he gets so moody all the time. Then all our mutual friends take HIS side on most things, because they baby him....they still say "Oh, it would've worked out if you were just patient with him..." I'm like "NO!" I didn't like who I was with him. I felt depressed every time I had to see him. You should get butterflies and be walking on a freaking cloud when you're going to see your man, right? Well, I never had those feelings. He'd put his arm around me and it just brought me really down because I'd look at him and be thinking 'Man, this isn't what I really want.' I'd see other guys at work, and be talking to them like I couldn't talk to Alan. That was easy. Alan lived in IL at the time (Ingleside) and I am in WI. I'd see how sweet other guys were, and want THAT rather than Alan. I could actually have a nice conversation and not feel like I had to walk on eggshells. Alan used to get jealous (I think) when we went to OG in Racine where I worked at the time. He'd be like "She has the hots for you..." My face got redder than a fire truck. I only say 'jealous' because I used to tell Alan how comfortable I felt talking to other guys and I felt I couldn't talk to him like that. If he dodn't act the way he did, and was more mature, I probably would've felt that with him too. If I'm going to date somebody, I have to feel like I can talkto him and feel safe with him. I have felt that safe 2x in my life. But not recently. And it's exactly what I'm looking for. Sometimes I think I shouldn't hold my breath...you know, the whole "Lightning doesn't strike twice" saying...I kick myself because sometimes I feel like I missed the boat while I was going back & forth with Alan. Bottom line....never let your friends push you into a relationship you don't want to be in.