What do you do...?

[DvuRulz]

Hey guys!

Sorry for posting this. I hope its worth your time. But I am going through a hard time right now and I'm wondering if you guys got any advice. What do you do when your best friend starts ignoring you because of her new boyfriend?

We used to be like sisters, but now she hardly returns my calls or texts. Its like she disconnected us. She is spending almost every day with him and she is spending less and less time with me and her other friends. If she is apart from him for a day, she misses him like crazy. That used to be how it was for her and me. But now it takes her probably over a week to miss me when we used to hang out about 3 times a week. It seems like I have to almost beg her just to see her once in a week. She complains about all her friends wanting to see her all the time and about how she doesn't have time for all of them. But here's the thing! She HAS time. She just spends every little minute of it alone with her boyfriend. She rarely invites me to hang out with the both of them.

We aren't sisters anymore. I am always the one to call her. I am the one to set up plans to meet. I am doing all the work. She rarely answers my calls. She promises she will see her parents here and there-and promises to see me...but she has to FORCE herself to see other people! It used to be that she WANTED to see me. Now its she HAS to see me! We always used to talk about how we'd never part, even when we found the men we loved. Guess that didn't hold true! If you guys could please help me out a little, I'd appreciate it. Thanks.

[Director_Guy]

Remind her of the cardinal rule: "Bros before Hoes".

[KyleK414]

..Or "Friends before lovers!" Though it is kind of hard when you are in love with someone!?

[frightfestkid]

Pull her over and talk to her and ask her to hang out somtime.
Or just make a lie and break them up.... Ok not the secound one but the first one could work.

[Director_Guy]

See "Chasing Amy". It deals with the exact same thing.... oh wait... it ends badly....

[CrstlBchCcln]

That kind of relationship can only end badly. She's WAY too into that guy to be healthy. I think he'll use her, and throw her out the door. Once she's sitting there in pain and loss she'll remember that she used to have friends and then she'll start calling you up again.

The choice then becomes yours. Do you want to be her friend again after she discarded you for some guy? Even right now, do you still want to be her friend with how she is treating you? Maybe this girl deserves to be alone (and she probably will be soon). That’s what I’ve gathered from the picture of her that you've painted.

[DvuRulz]

Well, thanks guys. I had a talk with her the other night and I guess I had a few things wrong. It was like an illusion. I guess she still cares about me the same as always, she's just going through a lot. We agreed that we'd work on seeing each other more often. I certainly hope it works.

Other than that, I'm worried about this guy. I found out they just got engaged and they have been going together for two months. Ok, they aren't going to get married for a few years, but I still think that's a little odd that he proposed so early. I get bad vibes from him and I really don't think their relationship will end up good.

[viperchick85]

I had a friend like that...we were friends for 18 years until she got married...they're divorced now....

[Trailblazer Tony]

Well, if it's a new boyfriend, i would think that it's natural for her to want to spend a little more time with the new guy in her life. That's how relationships build. If she's truelly a good friend, she'll return to you when her romantic life is in order and in a comfortable place. I think you should maybe use this temperary alone time from her to possibly find a guy for yourself or spend time with people you haven't spent time with in a while.